but what do you REALLY want?

So, for the last 2 days, my sister has been on my phone complaining – because that’s what she does. Not about bills or having to be a semi- single parent..yanno, important issues..but about her love life. You see, my sister is 34 yrs old with a 10 year old daughter and is now aching for another child. The problem – she is a sucker for worthless men.

Let me explain.

She is currently seeing a man  – we’ll call him Paul just for anonymities sake. Paul is 42 yrs old..lives with his parents..and his niece..AND his 17 yr old son..in a 2 bedroom apt..in which he shares a room with his son. Which also happens to be 2 floors down from his ex-wife. and the laughter starts….now. He was employed when they met and about 3 wks into dating, lost his job. So now, almost a year later…he is finally, with my sister’s help, on the road to being gainfully employed again. He has also expressed that he has less than zero interest in having anymore children. Now thru all of this, he has gotten undisclosed amounts of money from my sister, disappeared for days without calling, and had managed to still have my sister wrapped up…and now, she’s slowly coming undone. Finally, the other day-my sister had enough & she let him have it. Called him everything but a child of the most high and hung up on him. She calls me and tells me that she’s had enough and it’s time for her to find someone who is worthy of her time & love. I say a silent thank you to God and hope that next time, she’ll be a little more selective.

It lasts a day.

She called me yesterday and says ” he hasn’t called me and I think he’s mad at me!”

*confused look* ” You told him he was a loser and that you were fucking someone else…would YOU call?”

The point of all of this is-women, KNOW YOUR WORTH!!! Know what you deserve..what you’re capable of dealing with..and for pete’s sake, know when to let it GO. If you have goals & ambition, surround yourself with people who are on the same path as you. Be upfront about your wants & needs in a relationship and never lower your standards for the sake of having someone in your bed.

Know what you want..and stop settling for a momentary fix.